So, it seems somewhat churlish, during what everyone else considers a mid-life crisis (despite the fact that to me it feels like the sanest life choice I’ve ever made!) not to have made a bucket list. Well dear reader, churlish I shall not be called, for a Lemonaid bucket list there is…
Now I kind of take issue with the term ‘bucket’ list, for various reasons. First I don’t want a list of things to do before I die, I want a list of things to do to feel and celebrate the joy of being alive! Second, well, after two children the word bucket takes on a whole new complexion (Lea had cesareans, so she’s currently gloating!!).
The Lemon List, as it has been renamed, is available for your perusal on the site, and will probably be added to at various points. When we tick something off, we will invariably write a thrilling piece about it for you to vicariously enjoy the experience. There is also a lemon lust list that would really get tongues wagging, so to speak – but that is X-rated 😉
So apart from feeling like an obligatory part of the perceived crisis (aka emerging maturity??! Just sayin’!) why a lemon list? What exactly is the point of sharing a list of stuff that we want to do and writing about it?
Well, it feels like an intrinsic part of the fizz in this Lemonaid. After all, you don’t leave the father of your children, upset their, his and your life to be miserable. We’ve done this to be happiness catchers, to open ourselves up to more joy, delight, love and fun. To be committed to living in an authentic and wholehearted way (don’t vomit, ’tis the truth). Lea was once ‘accused’ of living a life of pleasure, to which she was in full agreement that this was exactly her aim in life! This was not the expected response…I think she was supposed to feel ashamed. Not very Lea!
Yet we often feel guilty for this, believe that life should be hard or a struggle, that we must ‘work hard’ to deserve any good. For anyone who’s read any of Pam Grout’s books, you’ll know that this belief is just that, a belief. Not fact. Pam advocates greeting all experiences with joy (even the shitty ones) to open us up to unlimited happiness, believing that “the Universe is limitless, abundant and strangely accommodating”.
For me it’s about accessing my free inner child – you know who that is…it’s the part of you you would have been before all your stuff got in the way. My free child quite often pops out but never for quite as long as I’d like. She usually gets spooked by ‘shoulds’ and ‘normal’ life and expectations that go against who she is and what she wants to do. What I want is Pam pumped into me intravenously 24/7! – That sounds so wrong now I’m an outed dyke :0
So, our lemon list, we hope, will allow our spontaneous, happy, carefree, joyous little children to ‘come out’ to play, and, may just inspire yours out too! Right, off to manifest my menoporsche…